Someone mentioned something very interesting today, regarding engagements, proposals, and timing. Actually, two different people did. Weird. It did make me think though more about whether there is a set time to which people have to produce a sparkly thing. That was the idea I guess. Circumstances around me bear discussion on this point, but no more need be said regarding that for everyone's sake. Let's just stick to the philosophy of the point at hand.
Upon thinking on it for a little while, and then discussing it with flatmates, consensus appears to be confirmed that by the fifth year of a relationship, things should be considered. By no means should it prevent people from not getting on bended knee before then, nor later. There's other factors at play that can change circumstances.
I've got friends who have married for visa purposes, for family approval, and for love at an early age. Other friends have had short engagements, continual skirting round the issue and head on conversations about it.
There's even been friends who've told me on separate occasions that they knew almost immediately. Actually there's been three sets of those. Scary. That's alot of friend who've gotten engaged.
Anyways, with that inconsequential tangent avoided, each one has a different story. But the constant in each was the desire to never let the other person go.
That, in my mind, is the only consideration.
Upon thinking on it for a little while, and then discussing it with flatmates, consensus appears to be confirmed that by the fifth year of a relationship, things should be considered. By no means should it prevent people from not getting on bended knee before then, nor later. There's other factors at play that can change circumstances.
I've got friends who have married for visa purposes, for family approval, and for love at an early age. Other friends have had short engagements, continual skirting round the issue and head on conversations about it.
There's even been friends who've told me on separate occasions that they knew almost immediately. Actually there's been three sets of those. Scary. That's alot of friend who've gotten engaged.
Anyways, with that inconsequential tangent avoided, each one has a different story. But the constant in each was the desire to never let the other person go.
That, in my mind, is the only consideration.
1 comment:
True, very true. Although 5 years?!?! If some one doesn't propose by 3 there is something going on, you don't have to get married, but it is a sign of commitment, not sure if I could waste another 2 years on a commitmentphob.
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